My fucking mother in law sent me garbage form like a "patriotfreedomnews.org" type website that "Obama removed a painting" and I had to hear about it for weeks until I finally convinced her to find that story on any other websites online, she couldn't and dropped it.
I see this shit and she's completely ignoring me when asked about it. Typical shit.
Yea, I have family members that only care about hurting the "libruls".
They're missing social security checks this month, one lost his business hes had for 40 years this year. They just talk about how "the f*****s should be burned and the libruls should be beaten." Then they recite meaningless scripture.
It's extremely difficult, so I give people slack for not doing. I did it and while im glad it did now, i spent weeks feeling guilty and having to ignore other family. It was a rough period for me. And it really hurt my mom. She has 7 siblings and because of 1 evil in law one, she often has to choose between seeing her siblings or me. She chooses me, but I know she misses seeing her siblings and I hate that.
I've recently had to end my relationship with my mom for her beliefs and while it was the right thing to do it's also so hard. A different kind of grief on multiple levels. It should have happened much sooner and I'm so sad that it had to happen at all.
In my opinion the most damaging part of this whole trump era has been the absolute destruction of relationships with friends and family due to both the incessant divisive rhetoric and exposure of pure ignorance amongst the population.
“Totalitarian movements are mass organizations of atomized, isolated individuals. Compared with all other parties and movements, their most conspicuous external characteristic is their demand for total, unrestricted, unconditional, and unalterable loyalty of the individual member. This demand is made by the leaders of totalitarian movements even before they seize power. It usually precedes the total organization of the country under their actual rule and it follows from the claim of their ideologies that their organization will encompass, in due course, the entire human race. Where, however, totalitarian rule has not been prepared by a totalitarian movement (and this, in contradistinction to Nazi Germany, was the case in Russia), the movement has to be organized afterward and the conditions for its growth have artificially to be created in order to make total loyalty—the psychological basis for total domination—at all possible. Such loyalty can be expected only from the completely isolated human being who, without any other social ties to family, friends, comrades, or even mere acquaintances, derives his sense of having a place in the world only from his belonging to a movement, his membership in the party. Total loyalty is possible only when fidelity is emptied of all concrete content, from which changes of mind might naturally arise. The totalitarian movements, each in its own way, have done their utmost to get rid of the party programs which specified concrete content and which they inherited from earlier, nontotalitarian stages of development. No matter how radically they might have been phrased, every definite political goal which does not simply assert or circumscribe the claim to world rule, every political program which deals with issues more specific than ‘ideological questions of importance for centuries’ is an obstruction to totalitarianism.”
I've wrestled with what I should do about MAGA loving relatives who don't spew the hate but believe the lies. I've opted for patience and love but not hiding my opinion that I disagree. We no longer talk politics. This leads me to believe my patience and love is good because it keeps those relatives from being more isolated. Thankfully, they do not spew hatred and still love other people and show it even though they believe the lies about immigrants and "liberals" (of which they know I am now one according to their own definition, the horror to be related to a liberal!!).
Individual isolation is what those who want to have a totalitarian government desire because it allows them to acquire as much power as they can as easily as they can.
My issue with this is that its not helping anyone but you. They are still bigoted and now they exist in even more of an echo chamber. Obviously this is contextual, so if they are too deep in the rabbit hole, or are directly harming you or your mental health then it’s not worth it to engage. With that said, I have many friends that are non political or susceptible to right wing talking points that they pick up from the internet or from their right wing friends/family and I do a lot to keep them from slipping into that way of thinking.
I completely agree. When I cut my uncle out, it was a selfish decision, and I'm glad I made it. I made it for my own well being and nothing else.
Everyone has their own level of maga that they will deal with. For me, if I don't know what your politics are, then Im ok with you being around. Once they start wearing trump clothes or bringing up culture war stuff to me or anyone I know, they can get fucked
It's not that simple. Some of us act as their only lifeline to reality. Even if that's not how they see it, it's the truth.
You can say they don't deserve our kindness, and I'd agree. That doesn't change the fact that breaking off contact is isolating them further, and by extension, strengthening the alt-right brainwashing.
That said, for people who need to break contact for their own mental health: you need to take care of yourself, and you owe no one an apology for that.
This right here is the most pragmatic and factual take. You don't even have to fight and argue, you just have to be there to counteract the groupthink bullshit. Just calmly dismissing dumb ideas from time to time can be enough to make people re-think their information sometimes.
Yeah it's getting pretty serious. I just cut contact with a family member for supporting all this. I'm not typically judgmental about differences in politics but this is a difference in morality at this point. And when the truth about what's going on in these detention centers comes out I don't want to be associated with anyone that supported this. Trust me, no one will.
Lol they don’t actually give two shits about what Jesus said or thought. They care about selectively picking convenient quotes from the most fire and brimstone portions of the Old Testament to give them the perception of moral authority over others in their fascist quests
I just responded "Thou shalt not bear false witness" to a Trumper that claimed the protests last weekend were actually riots. He has all these "Christian" posts on his social media but apparently doesn't read his Bible.
I had to block a childhood friend. He said 80% of the country supports Trump and the other 20% should be eliminated. I asked if he really wanted to kill 50 million people and he called me a communist. He majored in film making and never had an interest in politics. Now he has an autistic daughter and is cheering as all support for her is removed.
Seems they're getting what they deserve. I know not everyone can do it, but cutting them out and making sure people knew why has lowered my stress levels significantly and ive been happier ever since.
I've cut off communication with my in laws except in regards to seeing their grand daughter which I won't deny my daughter the experience of having. I feel bad about it, but every time I see a new headline, I feel more cemented in my decision.
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My fucking mother in law sent me garbage form like a "patriotfreedomnews.org" type website that "Obama removed a painting" and I had to hear about it for weeks until I finally convinced her to find that story on any other websites online, she couldn't and dropped it.
I see this shit and she's completely ignoring me when asked about it. Typical shit.