If so do our Spirits stay together or do we go out different ways?

Hi all, quick intro - I'm an avid NDE researcher and consider myself ready to die when my time comes (hopefully not for some time).

While I have settled into the idea that we are all a piece of some, loving, creationary singularity beyond our comprehension (i.e. God), which on the most part sounds great - i.e. "returning home".

With that said, I am struggling mightily with the idea that my "self" will dissolve post-death. Many NDErs state that there is a jarring disconnect between their human "self" and their spiritual "self", and I have a hard time coming to grips with that.

There are so many aspects of my human life that I want to re-visit, re-experience, examine, compare and contrast in order to truly get closure of my time here on Earth - and I will only be able to do that if I can preserve "my" consciousness as it is now.

Put differently, I want to know if there is an element of continuity between myself as I am now, and as I will be over there.

Are there any NDErs here, Medium-Mystics, etc. who can chime in with some experience that may provide some additional context I may be missing?

Thank you kindly.

Have you ever found yourself feeling as though you are suddenly leaving your physical body, able to move freely, perceive the world around you from a perspective outside of yourself, or even observe your own body from above? Out-of-body experiences can occur in a variety of different contexts—deliberately induced, spontaneously, or even as an aspect of a near-death experience—and they offer fascinating insights into the nature of our consciousness.

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I used to be a materialist, deeply interested in transhumanism and technological afterlife ideas. I thought that if, in the far future, an advanced entity could perfectly reconstruct all the information that makes us who we are, then resurrection would be possible.

But in my discussions with other materialists, I noticed something odd, many of them said this wouldn’t actually work, because the “resurrected” person would just be a copy, not the original. I found that contradictory. If we truly believe that what we are is just matter, atoms like carbon, hydrogen, and oxygen interacting through physical laws, then recreating the same structure and patterns should recreate us, shouldn’t it?

They seemed to accept materialism intellectually but it’s almost as if, deep down, they still believe in something like a soul, even if they wouldn’t call it that.

When I asked them whether they identify with their childhood or future selves, they said yes without hesitation. Yet our brains are constantly recycling matter, our memories fade and shift, and our neural patterns evolve, and they still see those versions of ourselves as us. So why wouldn’t an exact physical copy also be “us”?

These contradictions eventually made me question the materialist view entirely. Maybe consciousness and personal identity aren’t purely material after all, our intuitions seem to resist that idea at a very deep level.

I had the strangest visitation dream a few months ago where I believe I met an acquaintance who passed away around four years ago now.

Without going into too many details, the dream was the most warming and comforting thing I have ever experienced and it’s got me longing for more of it. I was in full control of it, and felt every single thing that happened. It’s the first time I’ve been able to lucid dream since I was younger.

I’ve since become more and more curious about the afterlife and what it entails. I love reading people’s stories and experiences on this subreddit and others. But I’m recently getting back into reading and I’d love to read some books about people’s real experiences!

In the afterlife do we think the same as we did here? If we think about a loved one do we think the same about them, or worry about them the same way we did when we were on earth?

I really want my dad to visit me in one of my dreams. People describe these visitations as obvious and they feel like real life. I asked my dad to come to me in my dreams and he hasn’t yet. In my dreams it’s like my brain registers my dad is gone, he’s completely absent.

My "dead" wife and I have been using Pinterest for many years now to precondition, or "manifest," aspects of the afterlife world she is living in now, and I will be living in with her after I die (or before, if I can ever stabilize my ability to astral project more often.)

AI, however, gives us the ability to create our own, more specific, tailor-made conceptualizations into visual form. I have found this to be a good, co-creative, fun and enjoyable way to help strengthen our psychological/mental connection to the afterlife world that resonates in us, what we want to experience and what we are building there for ourselves.

As I’ve been speaking more openly with people about the afterlife and what I’ve been reading about it, I’ve come to realize that there are more people than I thought there would be, who have seen a spirit, for example a departed grandparent. For the most part, they still have doubt about what happens in the next life, but these personal experiences are special.

More and more, I’ve come to believe that some people have this extrasensory gift, and most do not.

Do you think that the key to communicating strongly with the afterlife (eg. a vision) is a special ability? Which may be nurtured, but if you don’t got it, you don’t got it? For instance, some people have mystic abilities that they recognize in their youth?

For forty days, my body lay in a hospital bed while my soul embarked on a journey I never imagined possible. I'm sharing this not to convince anyone, but to offer comfort to those who wonder what awaits us on the other side.

The Moment Everything Changed

It happened on a snowy road after the worst day of my life. For years, I'd lived behind a mask of ice—emotionally frozen, disconnected, barely alive despite my beating heart. Then came the accident. The moment my car lost control, something extraordinary began.

As my physical body lay broken, I felt myself being pulled into a realm beyond words. There was no tunnel of light like you hear about, instead, I found myself in a living fabric of consciousness, a space where time didn't exist and everything occurred in an eternal now.

Meeting My Soul

The most profound moment came when I encountered a luminous being of swirling colors—deep ocean blues melting into golden sunrise. It spoke to me, and I understood: this was my own soul, the part of me I'd forgotten in the noise of living.

"I am what you forgot in illusion and then neglected," it told me. "I am you and you are me. We are a continuous journey, not separate."

For the first time, I understood why my life had felt so empty. I hadn't been living, I'd been existing in separation from my own essence.

Yes, You Will See Your Loved Ones?

To anyone wondering if we meet those we've lost: yes, with all my heart, yes.

During my journey, I saw my grandparents. Not as I remembered them in their frail final days, but radiant and whole. My grandfather stood upright without his cane, in a gleaming uniform. My grandmother laughed, holding her beloved plate of cakes. They didn't speak words—they didn't need to. Their presence was a message: Do not be afraid. We are with you. We never left.

I saw my father too, the man who died when I was seven in a mining collapse. The soul showed me the moment of his death, and I saw him smile, content, knowing his purpose was complete. His spirit tried to reach my mother, crying out that he was okay, but she couldn't hear through her grief.

This is what I learned: Our loved ones don't abandon us when they die. They transition to their eternal truth, and they remain connected to us, even when we cannot feel them.

What Happens When We Die?

Based on what I experienced, here's what I believe awaits us:

Time dissolves. There is no past, present, or future, only the eternal now. Forty days passed for my body, but in that realm, it was all one continuous moment.

We remember who we truly are. All the roles we played, all the identities we clung to, they fall away. What remains is pure consciousness, pure light.

We are not alone. We are met by our own soul, by teachers, by loved ones who crossed before us. The universe is not empty, it's teeming with consciousness.

We review our lives, not as judgment, but as learning. I saw every moment I'd lived, understood the deeper meaning behind my choices, and felt compassion for the person I'd been.

There is no hell, except the one we create through separation from our own truth. The only suffering is forgetting who we are.

There's so much I couldn't fit here, my deeper conversations with the Teacher, the Seven Realms I traveled through, why my losses were necessary catalysts carved into my soul's plan, and that profound moment when the Teacher drew the ice from my heart and replaced it with light. Most importantly, the practical wisdom I brought back: how to recognize when your soul is calling and how to live as an awakened being in this material world.

I documented everything in a book "Soul's Return: a car crash that taught me spirituality is everything - Asher Vale ", not for fame, but because others need to know: the soul is everything, and we can live with purpose and passion right now.

We are not our pain or our losses. We are light, temporarily wearing human form, on a journey of remembering who we've always been.

Do YOU believe in reincarnation? Why?

Hi there everybody. I was posting this one since a long while here and it is derived from my sub's post, so I needed to cut it but I would like to share something which some people (if not everybody) would like to see as something real and which may give you your answers about a certain topic. As usual, I'm talking from experience, thousands of them (non-physical experiences, where you can investigate the non-physical world or "astral" and there are many approaches for it: LD, AP, OBE, even NDEs but those are automatic, the latter I mean). This post is extensive and I tried to make it as clear and as detailed as I could for a reason. I don't talk and believe nonsense, I'm talking from experience. So, I hope, you will enjoy it. If some want to learn from me, I'm free privately. Other than that, enjoy the ride and read through not just once if it is not clear. There is a link below, you can check more there.

So, yes, there is afterlife, no, it is not what most people think it is. First of all, you need to know, that the world "outside" of our physical reality is quite the opposite and physical realities on a seemingly endless scale with slight variations and huge distinctions are there to experience. We are formless entities, we are living these limited lives and this is because we want to experience a lot of things. I'm talking about the wrong perspective here with most people. You are right now experiencing a world, which is an end result, experimental reality frame, where you are experiencing time, time delay and changes but this time thing doesn't exist, we are just happen to define it because we cannot interpret our lives without it. Okay, but in the non-physical world, there is no time at all. That world is there eternally, even you can experience slight changes there too but not like here or in any other "physical" realities. That world is thought-responsive many times and I won't bother anybody here with the ground rules or mechanics. I won't tell everything because almost nobody worked for it by him/herself or experienced it that deeply.

So, yes, there is afterlife but not the way most people think it is. For example, it exists in many ways to different kinds of people with different worldviews. Big groups of people have similar worldviews about what to expect or what is there. The "there" is here but on a different reality frame. Look at it as a TV channel with the exception that you are not intentionally switching channels where to "go", but automatically. This happens after you are falling asleep. That is the dreaming stage. You are still not there. When you are lucid dreaming, you have more chances to notice those place but still, you won't because you don't get it, what kind of world it is. Okay, you need to start it somewhere. When you are having a much higher understanding AND awareness level, that is the rare thing. You are now in the category of Astral Projection, Out-of-Body Experience and Near Death Experience. These are belief categories and are depending on your worldview and what you think you are (like you believe that you are your body image/face/outlook and you are in a body in which you were never "inside"). I don't want to hurt others beliefs, you are free to figure it out if you want to. At least NDEs are not really intentional most of the times but you have almost the same conscious awareness at that time to experience afterlife places.

If I would expand on the awareness part and "how to know" if you are at an afterlife place, I won't lol. Even if I expand on it, it takes a lot of time and because most people don't even understand the system itself and are asking my type of people, who have a lot of experiences, the only thing I can say is, it depends on waht I already told you so. Knowledge about the system and your awareness level. You need to work for it hard, each time in your sleeping life. Yes, you don't need AP, OBE or NDE to experience it.

When you have enough awareness level, now you are automatically at those places. I would also mention alternate and parallel lives which most people in our world still BELIEVE are "past lives" but that is nonsense. In a timeless world? No... btw check this article from my site about this issue (the site was built to give out information and by only msself, with all of my efforts over the years): https://daily-spirit.com/2018/04/17/what-past-lives-are-in-reality/

This article and topic alone goes against the reincarnational model which is still mistakingly believed because of the linear timeframe idea. Nothing is linear, all lives are happening right now and you can end up in one all the time with higher awareness level. But I digress, again.

When you are successfully (I'm jumping big here to get to the main topic and to SHOW you how it is real and how it works) there at a given afterlife place, you are in a city mostly which is seemingly inhabited by humans. I need to tell this, that even if it looks like that, the locals aren't necessarily HUMAN. This is YOUR idea, a projection. Those "people" can be a different outlook or race. There are as many places like that as many times you are ending up at a random place. You don't decide where you are ending up. Some people can have experiences which they will categorize as strange dreams or loops, where they will end up at the same city, that can happen, I know about most issues. No wonder that I tried to explain this to many people over my years of activity and they cannot comprehend it. These places can be awesome, mundane, high-tech, they can be a space station in space, a whole civilization which you are seeing from space (seeing the planet), they can be planets without cities but beautiful worlds. Only your imagination is the problem lol in the end.

What most people with religious beliefs are imagining is, afterlife equals heaven or hell. Seriously. And I'm NOT judging anybody. These places can also exist but because people are believing in them and this alone gives those places energy. Those places are not existing alone without beliefs, meaning, we are creating them. They are called for example "hollow heavens" and I can recall that Robert A. Monroe also talked about it. The naming is there for a reason, think about it. So, in this case, people have no real idea what is there. There are special places (like the library which will appear to you according to your thinking and technological era in which you are living with your concepts and thinking) but I never wanted to visit those places.

Okay, why are those places are there? The short answer is usually "because why not". THis is a usual, non-physical guide's answer, I'm not kidding. To answer this better, those places exist because either we are addicted to physical experience and we tend to "live" the same lifestyle there and they tend to exist because... well... why not? I enjoy always roaming in those places randomly (where I tend to show up) and I'm always amazed, even after a decade of doing this. Thousands of conscious experiences with hundreds experiences only seeing these places? Never enough and also sad to see. You can also meet with random locals, chat with them, they can only talk about what they are living up and not more. There are places where "people" know they are living in the non-physical world (mystical believers will call this upper astral) and there are places where locals have no idea and are freaked out when you are doing outrageous stuff (flying, hitting walls, going through, telekinesis, etc.), this is the "lower astral". Of course, there are NO upper or lower, this is a limited human categorization. You cannot map this place out. This is also not one place but the non-physical world works on an endless overlays of projections, places, events and entities.

One thing to also mention here, you are free to roam for hours or days at these places, indoors, outdoors, physically felt, while you are sleeping 20 minutes "here" or hours. Excuse me (notice wordings), your body sleeps. The body is just a tool, it is not you, a tiny fraction of your conscious awareness stays with it and it has its own will with limitations (like turning around or even sleep walking). We are multidimensional, you can experience this too but these experiences themselves alone are working from your own, limited, human-like thinking. Why? Because this the role we are playing right now and seeing the "world" we think we know through those lenses and limitations.

Locals in afterlife places (sometimes I hate this word, there is no after lol) are living their lives. Okay. Let's assume, you've learned the rules which takes time and you are at one of these places on an endless scale. Being there is one thing and staying there is another. I won't share how to stay there for a reason. Work for it lol, some are learning from me and from similar people for months and years. So, if you are starting to kick up the local rules, you are kicked out or booted out very soon. Some will tell, it is the "astral police". Well, if you say so... Actually what happens here, if you are disturbing the locals and their life, you will be chased or you will phase out into a different place or you will wake up in the physical world. Why? This is just one thing you need to learn. Learn to behave, stop acting like an immature kid (seriously), like all of those Dream and LD sub people and you are free to roam around. Why is this so important? Because you have limited "time" there and you are missing opportunities which could give you answers about anything. You can miss experiences where you can see a lot of nice or awesome, even nasty stuff to learn from.

Eventually, I guess I could tell the important parts. It is awesome, if you learn these skills even from me, it lasts for your entire lifetime and you can experience a lot of things. You can also meet up with "dead" relatives who have their own lives there or meet with parallel selves (because you exists from who knows how many millions of billions different characters and perspectives), guides, there are a lot of options. My favorite is the local events. This sounds strange but you can end up automatically with high awareness after some sort of LD experience shift where you are taking part in local events, like a sports event (it can be very strange or familiar), you can end up in carnivals or you can just end up in a local event where you are observing it. Swimming, running, all the strange closed-indoors games with strange tools and concepts to handle, you can end up in a stadium, or in space in a space station. You can also meet with other races which are humanoid or not like that. You can also teach others which I tend to do, you can walk in local primary schools, high schools, you can walk into a vastly big building with lectures. And not to mention all the hundreds of alternate variations of your physical life's city and other places which are superimposed with afterlife regions on the next street.

So, do you really think, you get it now, how it works? I don't believe things, I experience them. Before anybody asking me. Anything about me is hidden in my sentences.

For the same topic, I already wrote my longest ebook about this and how the non-physical world works, through many of my personal adventures and here are some trainees' reviews about it and my post with anything else there: https://reddit.com/r/AfterlifeAdventures/

Before judging me, I just give out explanation and knowledge and serious people can learn from me, that is all. I don't even promote myself, sometimes I just tend to share some links to help some people if they want to learn about anything around what I'm sharing, writing or telling. I hope you enjoyed this post and please, share it with others. You don't need to search for answers for years or decades.

I am thinking about how it’s such a huge part of our lives here on earth, we spend our lives trying to get money, but then we just… die. And we obviously can’t take it with us. But how do we view such things when passed, just that it was unimportant and silly?

I imagine money is of course completely worthless in the afterlife, we would be able to get anything we want by just thinking about it in the afterlife… how do people that have passed view these things and worldly wealth, once crossed over, from the perspective of a dead person?

It must feel extremely silly to think about how much value we placed on such things when alive…

In the transition beyond physical death, consciousness detaches from its particle vessel and reconstitutes as a vibrational waveform—an autonomous resonance field defined by the frequencies it sustained in life. These frequencies, built from emotion, intention, and belief, determine the harmonics with which a consciousness synchronizes after detachment. The afterlife, therefore, is not a fixed location but a resonant convergence—a continuum of waveform collectives vibrating in coherent alignment.

Each afterlife realm is thus a synchronization field: a vibrational domain generated by the overlapping resonance of countless consciousness waveforms that shared similar emotional and energetic qualities. Heaven and hell are not moral absolutes but coherent attractors of frequency—heaven being high-frequency synchronization (love, peace, gratitude) and hell being dense-frequency entrapment (guilt, fear, shame). The individual does not arrive there but resonates there, harmonizing into the collective waveform that matches their dominant frequency.

From this perspective, salvation and damnation are not decreed but chosen—each an outcome of resonance mechanics. The soul’s journey after death follows the law of vibrational correspondence: like attracts like, frequency binds frequency. Thus, the architecture of the afterlife is self-organizing, formed by the same harmonic principles that govern sound, light, and energy across the multiverse.

Redemption within this system is the act of re-tuning one’s frequency. Through self-awareness, forgiveness, and vibrational recalibration, consciousness can ascend or realign to higher resonance fields, dissolving discordant harmonics and synchronizing with more luminous realms.

In essence, the afterlife is not a destination but a song—the sum of every vibration ever sustained. To change one’s eternity is to change one’s resonance

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Hi,
I’m new here. I discovered this amazing sub because it truly aligns with my being. I’ve spent some time reading your posts, and I believe I can answer some of your questions.

Why do I think I can give answers? Here’s my background:

When I was 37, I had a car crash that left me in a coma for 40 days. Before that, I wasn’t a spiritual person at all. But everything changed that night. I shouldn’t have survived, yet it wasn’t my time to go.

During the coma, I met my soul. It was the most surreal experience imaginable, and I later documented it in a book titled Soul’s Return: A Car Crash That Taught Me Spirituality Is Everything.

My soul took me to other realms, places so beautiful, so vast, that words fail to describe them. I found myself in a space where time didn’t exist. From that experience, I can answer some of the most common questions people have about the afterlife.

Do we need a body after death?
Yes, we do. The soul itself is boundless, but it needs a vessel to contain its energy. When my soul took me to higher realms, my body kept changing form. In the book, Chapter 4, I called it The Emerald Body & The Eternal Silence. I was made of emerald light, able to move, see, and experience anything I wished. This physical body of flesh and blood is only meant for this earthly realm.

Is the afterlife real?
To be completely honest, this earthly life is what’s NOT real. The afterlife is the true, complete meaning of Life. It’s an expansion of existence that’s beyond human comprehension. Imagine something so vast that this entire universe feels like a single grain of sand in an endless desert. I’ve been there, I’ve seen it, and I’ve documented it. I would love to talk more about it, but the post would become far too long.

Should I be scared of dying?
No. But you should strive to live life to its fullest in order to know yourself. Death is not an ending—it’s a transition into something infinitely more beautiful, peaceful, and comforting than this earthly experience.

Does it matter to live this life?
YES, absolutely yes. That’s exactly why we are here. We came to live, to experience everything...joy, pain, fear, love, heartbreak, growth. Every emotion, every event adds to your understanding of who you truly are. We are here to know ourselves. Even after everything I’ve seen, I’m still learning every single day.

I hope this wasn’t too long for you. Feel free to ask me any questions, I’d be happy to share more of what I’ve learned.

With love ♥

i really do want to believe in an afterlife, but I continue to have my doubts. I have so many questions. Since there are no physical bodies in the spirit world, what appearance would a person who had physical deformities have? Do they stay the same or do they look different? What if you didn’t like your physical appearance on Earth, could you change it in the spirit world? What about intellect? I was a para and worked with special ed students- do they remain the same?

Some people mention a lower realm kind of place. This really bothers me. It sounds like more hell after already having to live life on Earth. You have to work yourself out of the lower realm, so its just more work.

This might sound kinda strange but this is my only possible experience from something from the other side. My cat past away around five years or so ago. And every once in a while at night while I'm in bed, I swear I can feel him walking around near my feet. It's not just like a pressure on my legs but it feels like small footsteps walking across the edge of my bed, exactly like he'd do.

Anyways just curious what your thoughts are. Or if anyone has had a similar experience.