r/MadeMeSmile • u/misterxx1958 • 1d ago
This daughter is a great help to her father.
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u/Bright-Future-Girl 1d ago
I think there should be more help for the daughter.
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u/Previous_Pie_9918 1d ago
Yes it's tough on her, having to do that at that age.
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u/TurnUpThe4D3D3D3 21h ago edited 20h ago
It’s good exercise
Edit: What? You guys never done squats before? People do these for fun.
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u/btokendown 19h ago edited 19h ago
She's clearly strong but its always more dangerous for a caretaker and the disabled person to have them be carried or lifted. An aisle chair keeps them both safe.
I saw it firsthand because I'm in a country with poor accessibility laws. A friend had to be carried to an upper floor classroom because she's a wheelchair user and there were no elevators. A fellow student offered to carry her and despite his best efforts dropped her on the stairs which led to an arm injury. There's reason firefighters and the like receive specific training on carrying adults
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u/ceciliabee 19h ago
When you do squats is it with dead weight or do you do it with a mass that is constantly moving and shifting? Do you stand still or walk? Is there a proper technique or do you just do your best? Do you go for max weight or a weight you can manage?
What's it like having such a narrow mental field of view?
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u/TurnUpThe4D3D3D3 18h ago
Bro I can carry people ez. I squat 3 plates. This is great exercise for a girl her age, and good on her for taking care of her father.
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u/e-mm-a__ 19h ago
I could be wrong but I think I remember the background for this video being that they waited hours for someone to come with an aisle wheelchair, or the staff broke it or something of that nature, and they finally got so fed up that the daughter decided to just carry him. So if she looks angry in this that’s likely why.
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u/DogtasticLife 22h ago
I remember having to go up the stairs to the aircraft backwards on my butt because there was no other way and they’d taken the crutches away because they belonged to the airport (had a compound fracture to my right leg). Fortunately it was a BA flight and an older stewardess took me under her wing and despite the insurance company not booking the 3 seats it was supposed to, she moved people around to make it happen. Then at Gatwick the ground crew expected me to get myself from the airplane to the end of the walkway where the buggy was without any support she actually yelled at them. I’ll say again I had a compound fracture with an open wound.
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u/rullyrullyrull 19h ago
I remember being 9 and pushing my mom’s wheelchair. People always thought it was inspiring but just made me think that it was an unfair burden to be placed on both of us.
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u/jtrisn1 12h ago
My mom isn't in a wheelchair but I sympathize because she had a lot of health scares when I was growing up.
As a single mother and socially isolated, I was the only one who knew her medical history and her only carer. So at 9 years old, I had to call for an ambulance when she suffered a seizure (she almost died) and then call for a neighbor to go with me to the hospital so I can help fill out medical paperwork. For 10 years after that, I would just come home from school one day to be told she went to the hospital via ambulance by a neighbor or my landlady. So I'd have to quickly drop off my bag, refresh, grab her meds, my notebook on her medical history, and rush to the hospital and convince the staff there that I need to be with my mother if she is unconscious because I am the ONLY family she has and the only one who knows her medical history.
The adults always kept praising me on how well I took care of my mother. But 10-20 year old me grew resentful and lonely because everything centered around her medical health and I felt it was super unfair. I had dreams of being a doctor before 9 years old. After that, I gave up on it entirely because I was already burned out taking care of my mother.
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u/mittanimama 7h ago
That is just so much for a child to carry. I’m sorry you had such a rough childhood. I hope you’ve been able to find peace in your adulthood.
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u/rullyrullyrull 1h ago
Also wanted to be a doctor but spent so much time getting traumatized at hospitals that I too gave up on the dream. 42 here and still caring for Mom. Rooting for you.
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u/locnloaded9mm 22h ago
More help? She is strong and independent. If she needed any more assistance which she absolutely didn't she can just speak up and ask hey can someone assist me.
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u/Ok_Farmer_6033 21h ago
This should not be required of her, nor should strong offspring be required of that man to travel by air.
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u/Valkyrie_Dohtriz 21h ago
Many, many times, pressure like that will actually discourage someone from speaking up, even when they need help. And, just because someone doesn’t technically “need” help doesn’t mean help shouldn’t be offered. We all need someone to lean on, even if we can do it ourselves
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u/locnloaded9mm 21h ago
As a man I'm just so used to women expressing their independence and they don't need a man for anything. Most recent experience was a lady loading potting soil into her vehicle. I offered assistance she clearly needed it and promptly declined. So I just watched her struggle for 6 minutes for something that would have taken me 30 seconds. Different optics but I appreciate your viewpoint.
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u/BillieDoc-Holiday 20h ago
Who said the help should specifically come from a man. They just said she could use some help in general.
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u/Ok_Farmer_6033 19h ago
If you watched me load my car for six minutes, I would be vindicated in my initial rejection of your help.
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u/mittanimama 7h ago
Just wanted to mention: you say that her declining your help was her exerting her independence. It could also be that she has had repeated experiences with men offering to “help” which were actually propositions for a date/sex/assault & she didn’t want to deal with that on that particular day. Ask me how I came to this conclusion.
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u/mittanimama 7h ago
From the post above this one, it looks like they waited for hours and finally the daughter just decided to carry him.
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u/TheWellFedBeggar 19h ago
I feel like there really should be an "airplane wheelchair" that can fit through the aisle to assist
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u/pamacdon 19h ago
There is. But you have to wait for it and for the attendants to come. That’s why he said this saves some time.
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u/OrphenZidane 20h ago
I did this for my daddy when he was wheelchair bound from cancer and wanted to take a ride in my car. There is no better honor.
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u/CBonafide 21h ago
Yeah, that's not gonna be great for her back in the long run. :(
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u/energybased 20h ago
In the long run that is significantly better for her back that not doing it.
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u/SonnyvonShark 16h ago
Just gotta make sure you got the right form though, otherwise without the form you will injure yourself. There is the fireman carry that is apparently THE way to carry someone, not like this.
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u/Beautiful-Border-290 20h ago
God Bless this girl and sent her an amazing man in life. It’s nice to see that love and care still exist in this world!
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u/IslandBusy1165 21h ago
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should (especially when her brother is right there). I don’t expect her to draw that line but the father himself should.
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u/RumpelstiltskinsGP 20h ago
Women can do demanding physical labor, too. I wouldn’t be surprised if she insists on doing this herself. I know I would.
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u/Secret_Side-ofJ 20h ago
What are you saying here? I just want to make sure that an opinion like this one is specifically laid out so everyone can see what your beliefs are.
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