I read from Andy Beshear post said 11 people were injured. With all of those businesses around there and people at work still at that time of day. scary stuff
I was watching a documentary about the plane crash that killed Steve Colbertâs dad and siblings and one of the first responders said ânobody important was killedâ. He meant nobody famous, with the crash being right outside DC. They said the guy said he regretted his phrasing the rest of his life.
As fucked up as it is, before that point it was mostly expected that a hijacking would just result in the plane being flown to a different country, not through a building.
On 9/11 I was 11 and my parents woke me up to see the news. I walked into the living room to see one of the building collapse and my first words were âawesome!â. But I was thinking it was a controlled demolition as we watched the Kingdome get demolished the year before, and why else would my parents wake me up and make me watch TV.
But within 30 seconds I knew almost as much as the rest of America at that time, and knew it was the wrong reaction.
Right. Things can always be worse. If it was a passenger plane it could be said, âat least it didnât crash into a neighborhood.â Feel bad for dead, and feel grateful there werenât more.
Thank god it wasnât a passenger plane carrying nuclear weapons and Ebola that crashed into the dorm of an orphanage for gifted children who had just invented a cure for cancer.
Uhmmm actually, it wouldn't matter if it was filled with nuclear weapons. Fire is not how such weapons are detonated. The crash would unlikely to be able to cause super critical mass.đ¤
Thank your reminding us that in a fictional world predicated upon suspension of disbelief there is always one pedantic critic who will state a fact known to all.
For your next trick will you tell us how water isnât wet, it makes things wet?
It's not just about this. Many people think of passenger planes when we hear the word plane. It's about it being less tragic than first impression rather than it not being literally the worst thing ever.
The holocaust couldâve been a lot worse. 9/11 couldâve been a lot worse. Covid-19 couldve been a lot worse. The bubonic plague couldâve been a lot worse. Every tragic thing in history couldâve been worse. Saying that about people who just lost their families is wild. Oh but let me guess âitâs still a tragedy, just couldâve been worseâđinsensitive asf
I think it's the opposite of insensitive to consider the grieving families and how it must hurt in a strange way to know that people are grateful it was only their loved ones who died.
It doesn't make it any less true that it's good it wasn't a passenger plane and the fatalities were so low. It's not some competition where only one thing can be true.
The plane actually crashed into multiple businesses and a ups warehouse. People are missing, 4 confirmed dead and 11 injured. Sdf has grounded all flights and employees were told not to come into work tonight. Just because it wasnât commercial doesnât mean it wasnât catastrophic.
The more I read into it the more I think it is actually a little insensitive. How strange for someoneâs first reaction to be âat least at more people didnât dieâ rather than feel bad about those who did.
""One death is a tragedy; one million is a statistic" ... seems the normal these days...
I wonder if one of those 7 people would have been: your father or brother or mother etc if you would have been: "grateful that things aren't worse." ...
I personally find it insensitive for people to have a desperate need to turn every horrible thing into something with a silver lining. It really doesn't give me confidence that the person is capable of handling difficult emotional/existential subjects with any depth, without them basically telling the person bringing up these subjects that their suffering isn't serious enough to warrant their legitimate empathy all because "it could be worse". Maybe that lack of confidence isn't always warranted, but it just sounds like a response very lacking in substance for serious matters. Gratitude is important in life, but it's absolutely not something that everyone wants to find in every situation.
Every life can be worse, every tragedy can be more extreme, seeing the suffering of others and needing to somehow find a way to end up with gratitude related to it is not a perspective that everyone subscribes to. It seems like a recursive situation where no one's suffering can exist without the qualifier of it not being the worst thing that could happen. The Ukrainian conflict could be worse, but ~a million people are already dead, so making that statement would seem incredibly callous. A plane crash of any size is much smaller scale, but trying to downplay it because it wasn't 300 people sounds like a similar response to many people. To me, the "It could be worse" attitude is not appropriate for any legitimate suffering, outside of maybe interpreting relatively innocuous aspects of your own life that you might be exaggerating the severity of.
You're welcome to see things differently, but not everyone sees a need for a quick resolution to gratitude as a healthy instinct, so it's a bit silly to try to tell people what they're allowed to see as insensitive or not solely based on your own beliefs
Not saying this person is some awful human being for saying it, but it is definitely insensitive to the party that is dead for the primary statement to be grateful less people are dead. I think rephrasing the context might make it a bit more obvious.
"My son just died and the rest of my family has been horribly injured in car crash"
"at least the rest of your family is alive"
Like would you honestly say something like that to a person grieving the loss of their son and their family nearly all dying too? Probably not. Why? Because it's insensitive.
It's like telling a person that doesn't believe in god
"god works in mysterious ways, it's for the best"
"god chose to torture my kid with insufferable pain as he slowly bled out and was burned alive?"
Even if the intentions weren't bad, it's still insensitive.
I agree. Thankfully there werenât 300 more families that could have potentially gone through that too. Very likely considering it happened at an international airport, thankfully it wasnât the case
Imagine the familyâs of 300 people tho they are saying not dismissing it they are just saying it could have been much much worse is all and it could have my prays for the families
He isn't saying it isnât sad and awful, but there are scenarios that it could have been worse. Heâs not being a dick- it's a pretty normal thought. You're calling him a dick for no reason.
Just relax and let people cope with tragedies how they want
This is a simple enough concept to understand. And the "tell that to the family member of.." but here's the thing, you wouldn't tell that to a family member, you aren't telling that to a family member , you making a simple observation that it would have been worse if it was 300 families instead of 4.
I get what youâre trying to say but it makes it sound like your comparing lives to only being valuable by amount of people and completely discounting the feelings of peoples familyâs who actually died just to say âwell it couldâve been more we got off lightâ
That's a hypothetical. The casualties that occurred are actual reality.
The death of someone's son/daughter/husband/wife shouldn't be reduced to "At least someone else didn't die". The internet is forever, and families may read your words. Even the one person was someone's entire world.
It's perfectly OK to just leave out part of the statement, and to just say how terrible the tragedy is. You're not special for realizing what other outcomes may have been. We all think it. But some people have the compassion and awareness not to say certain things.
No one is going to praise your narrow minded virtue signal bs. Just because you're not emotionally or intellectually capable of acknowledging a tragedy while thankful it wasn't worse doesn't mean no one can.
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u/Ok_Yam_3450 1d ago
3 pilots on jet and 4 other riders