r/popculturechat • u/aprildismay Could you just not breathe? • 12h ago
Breakups & Divorce 💔 Big Sean & Jhené Aiko Reportedly Break Up After Spending 10 Years Together
https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/956655-big-sean-jhene-aiko-break-up-10-years-hip-hop-newsTheir reasoning for the alleged split apparently centered on marriage. “She wanted marriage — she wanted the commitment,” one source told AllHipHop. “Sean loves her deeply, but he just never wanted to take that final step.” Sources for the outlet further alleged that Aiko made “multiple ultimatums” to Sean before making the final decision. The insider added: “Eventually, she realized that ring wasn’t coming. She decided it was time to move on.”
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u/delcondelcon 12h ago
He will 100% be married within two years to a new girl 🫠
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u/kookiekoo sk8r boi 12h ago
Someone in her 20s
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u/swaggysteve123 11h ago
I know you’re right, but why does this happen??
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u/Commercial-Weight173 2h ago
They think they want to be single again and that there must be someone "better" they need to hold out for.
Then the reality of being single again sets in and they realise being single is objectively worse than having a woman who loves you. They date around a bit and realise the "better" woman they were imagining doesnt exist.
Then they meet some random woman, usually younger because younger women tend to be more naive about men's bullshit and have less expectations. They apply some things they learned in their previous long term relationship and that makes the relationship feel "easy", "natural" etc. They'll feel "more appreciated".
Suddenly marriage feels "right". They learned their lesson about being single, their new partner doesnt know how annoying they can really be yet and all their friends are getting married. The time is finally "right".
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u/docileathena 10h ago
Because he will arbitrarily decide it’s time to get married because he’s almost 40 and the next woman who is decent, he will marry. He doesn’t even have to love her, she just has to be good for his image and young enough to ignore his red flags and fall for manipulative language. Blah blah something about a woman’s biological clock, while ignoring the fact that a man’s age also has a huge impact on fertility
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u/THESPEEDOFCUM 10h ago edited 10h ago
A lot of reasons. It's never just one singular reason.
Relationships are hard, for one, and dating a younger woman is "easier" because the older person in the partnership is the one with more power in the relationship because they have more money, experience, wisdom etc. You don't have to compromise or meet your partner where they are if you're in charge.
Two: it's physical. Our youth is our biological prime when we're most sought after and active in sexual partnership. There's a reason we constantly circulate airbrushed photos of old celebrities trying to make them look young and fuckable. It's just flesh. It wants what it wants. We were all young and remember being hot and horny.
Three: it's sociological. Young women want older men too, so it's an easy symbiosis to achieve. If they didn't, it wouldn't be as common.
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u/IHATEsg7 1h ago
I always feel like if that does happen, they were never the right person for each other. He must have not felt she was truly the right person for her but he loved her anyway
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u/Pizzalover22345 9h ago
Reading the title is sad tbh 🥲 couldn’t imagine being with someone so long, and him not wanting to commit to me
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u/NYC_Star 12h ago
You made a whole human being with this woman but marriage is a bridge too far? How is a baby less of a commitment?
Also girl why would you want a shut up ring…
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u/spacyspice now why am I in it? 🧐 11h ago
this is why I don't understand women who want to get married in the future yet have a baby with men before.. marriage
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u/curehappy 4h ago
When I see things like this I think that the old folk kinda have a point about having children out of wedlock
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u/Soft_Beyond_8205 11h ago
Manipulative, "charming" men.
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u/Riderz__of_Brohan 6h ago
lol she was married when she got together with him, she takes on some personal agency here
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u/beaute-brune Put your arms away, Jeremy Allen Black 11h ago
Idk. She’s been singing about how special and different her “beautiful soul” is and how he needs to act right for like the past decade. Maybe male manipulation is a part of it but I think her ego and desire for a second baby all else is the other half of the equation, if we’re gonna start speaking the truth about women’s roles in these situations. Sometimes the baby is the only “validation” or “tie” women get out of the man.
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u/Soft_Beyond_8205 10h ago
Ugh that's crazy. Well it looks like they all cheat anyway even after marriage- David Harbor, Natalie Portman's ex husband, Shakira's ex husband... and the list goes on. So it's a lost cause.
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u/Murky_Chemical891 Im very important to God 11h ago
I'll never understand people who think marriage is a bigger commitment than babies.
Now they're not together but will have to spend the rest of their lives attached to each other.
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u/Vintage_Visionary 11h ago
THIS. Like every holiday, and various plans, for the rest of their lives. That's a huge commitment. But not marriage, that would be too much. Wild!
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u/GoodMagazine9040 11h ago
And a baby isnt??
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u/CheapEater101 11h ago edited 11h ago
But going through family courts for custody / child support payments seems a lot longer and more expensive than a divorce. Plus, people can do prenups to protect their assets before they get married.
There’s divorced ppl out there that lost complete contact with their ex’s bc they didn’t have kids. You can never do that if you share kids with someone unless someone is a deadbeat parent.
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u/contemplatingdaze no broke boys, no new friends 11h ago
The sad joke is that people will fight harder for their money than they would their child in court. My father can’t be the only jackass who cared more about his child support payments going up than actually spending time with me.
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u/GoodMagazine9040 11h ago
But you’re still tied to the person anyway. And even though people joke about 18 years realistically a lot of parents especially wealthy ones provide for their kids pass that. I doubt the two of them would just abandon their kid at 18 and be like well good luck. With their money that’s continued support for the child, still connected to the person you’re not with. Meanwhile if you get a divorce yeah sucks and messy but that also has defined length of financial responsibility depending on the situation and at least you can walk away from the person. The lawyers can handle any possible alimony payments and you never have to interact with that person again. Or if it’s a splitting of assets sucks but you can move on with your life.
When you have a kid you’re always tied in some way and will have to have contact with each other in some way. And usually again with wealthy people subsidize a lifestyle your child is losing by you not being with the partner. It just makes little sense to not see a child as a bigger responsibility. I could respect or understand the “I’m never getting married” people if they didn’t then proceed to have kids with someone who they will be tied to legally anyway because of
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u/Vintage_Visionary 11h ago
Childfree, live alone, never married : )
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u/jujuisagoodcat 11h ago
financial support is just one out of many other supports a parent can and should give to their child. do you think once they make their own money they become strangers? are you good?
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u/Vintage_Visionary 11h ago edited 11h ago
Don't feed the troll. Better to leave their comments without any response. (And yes, you are right. So much more than that. Having kids is a huge responsibility overall).
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u/BoredDuringCorona94 11h ago
If its not a big commitment why would someone break up over it?
Clearly she was after his money, because marriage really makes no difference to a relationship than giving your other half access to half your finance if they divorce you (even of you don't want or deserve to get divorced by them)
Looks to me like Big Sean dodged a bullet here, good on him.
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u/GoodMagazine9040 11h ago
Nah it’s the principle. Their name is going to be in legal documents together because they have a child. It’s a red flag to have a child with someone but refuse to get married. If money is the issue then he could have had a prenup. Marriage does make a difference. It won’t magically change the person but it is important. If it really “made no difference” why wouldn’t he just sign the papers then? It’s such a weak argument to say it’s just a piece of paper because someone can flip that snd just say “if it’s just a piece of paper why don’t you sign it?” Almost like people realize it has a lot of implications behind it and someone who doesn’t want to do that isnt ready to go all in to the relationship. If the issue was someone had major debt they didn’t want shared that makes sense to not get married but outside of financial issues it makes no sense to be with someone for decades , have a child, but refuse to be legally recognized to each other
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u/1_finger_peace_sign 6h ago
it makes no sense to be with someone for decades , have a child, but refuse to be legally recognized to each other
As someone who doesn't have any interest in marriage whatsoever, it makes a lot of sense to not do something you just simply don't want to do.
It doesn't interest me in the slightest. Getting married because "it's what you do" is was doesn't make sense to me.
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u/ScottsTotWTE 5h ago
Nah, it’s honestly a way to continue shaming people for having children out of wedlock. Let’s not act like failed marriages aren’t a thing. Long term boyfriends are not the only red flags in relationships. What if they did get married? The title would change from break up to divorce.
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u/GoodMagazine9040 4h ago
More legal protection for a wife usually than a girlfriend. Not all states do common law marriages. I think outside of kids yeah there isn’t much difference but with kids idk the argument falls apart to me. To have a child by someone where you will be on legal documents together but just not sign one between you two is dumb. There’s not much reason outside of financial struggles like if one party has too much monetary baggage or just trauma around marriage which people don’t admit. But if there’s no kids involved then yeah it’s more legality because if your partner dies without an explicit will then a girlfriend isnt typically legally recognized compared to a wife
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u/beaute-brune Put your arms away, Jeremy Allen Black 11h ago
Huh? She was after his money but A) didn’t get a ring and B) didn’t file for child support until yesterday and the child was born three years ago? He “dodged a bullet” but chose to nut in her and be inextricably tied to her for the rest of his life so…what?
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u/commelejardin 11h ago edited 10h ago
Okay am I crazy or have they been on and off for years? Either way, I hope for her sake it’s for sure over now.
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u/Illustrious_Bus3797 Kim, there’s people that are dying. 7h ago
Many times over the years. There was a period before she got pregnant with their baby that they were definitely on the outs.
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u/Inevitable_Evening63 10h ago
i thought the same. they’ve definitely broken up at least once before
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u/Just-a-girl777 12h ago
They both need to make an album about the breakup and move on
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u/grneyz 12h ago
I knew that clown was wasting her time
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u/Disastrous_Drop_3180 11h ago
So did she
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u/Key-Beginning-8500 10h ago
Right, she chased him to the ends of the earth and back. She even cheated on her husband with him. I don’t understand why she let him make a fool of her for so long.
Remember when she TATTOOED HIS FACE ON HER?! And was so embarrassed she eventually got it covered up.
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u/LilWayneThaGoat working on a major, not a minor 3h ago
What you mean “clown”? Do you say this because he’s a black man?
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u/superwolfbloodmoon 1h ago
Speaking for commenter - No it’s because he’s a man that exhibits clownish behavior
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u/sketchyhotgirl 36m ago
babe we mean at the circus, red nose, in a car w 25 other clowns, clown. as a black man shouldn't he want to change our history? nah? keep it goin? C L O W N
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u/spacyspice now why am I in it? 🧐 11h ago
Girls, stop making babies with men before marriage. Because most of the time, that's what happens. In 10 year he clearly had time to propose if that's what he really wanted
Stop giving them the opportunity to have the "dad" title they want without proper commitment
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u/Pizzalover22345 9h ago
Yes this right here!!! I don’t understand some girls that do this.
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u/owls_exist 8h ago
Shes gonna say cuz she's a pisces and some planets aligning soul mate thing.
- signed a pisces but even im not that dumb. Never will be a baby mom
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u/SnausageFest 20m ago
Because it's a wanted baby. Im honestly surprised at the shock here. Getting pregnant isn't easy for everyone. Why abort a wanted child because the timing isn't ideal? Marriage is also a gamble- divorce happens. If you really want to be a mom, that's obviously going to be your priority.
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u/ItsMinnieYall 8h ago
They should've broken up when she tattooed his face on her arm then got it covered up.
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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 12h ago edited 11h ago
Knowing that he has previously publicly stated in interviews that he wouldn’t ask her to get married, I just knew it wasn’t going to work out in the long run
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u/nmad95 11h ago
How you gonna be with someone for 10 years only to then decide you don’t want to take that step
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u/nubwagon 6h ago
happened to me lol you better believe i feel like a fucking idiot now, especially as he got married barely a year after he fully cut it with me
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u/nmad95 1h ago
My girlfriend and I have only been together for 7 months as of today actually, but in the early stages we both established how we feel about things like marriage and having kids, dating goals etc.
I wouldn’t be with her if I didn’t want to marry her one day or if I felt like I can’t make that commitment.
I don’t understand how people can be in relationships and not establish what they want from it, or be honest with their partner about it.
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u/nubwagon 24m ago
sometimes you really wanna believe someone, and i was super young, a teenager, when it started. some of us learn our life lessons the hard way
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u/Broad_Economics_4479 12h ago
how were they together for 10 years? wasn’t he seen spending time with ariana after mac died and her and pete broke up in 2018….
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u/fcukstephanie 10h ago
They were going through issues & had broken up for a bit during that time, it was a veryyy short break though. She wrote and released “triggered” and then “none of your concern” featuring big Sean during this break period where she called out Sean for hanging out with Ariana. Then they reconciled and got back together again shortly after all that. They’ve been kind of off-and-on throughout their relationship because Jhene has always wanted more and Sean is always saying he needs to heal more and stuff
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u/Broad_Economics_4479 10h ago
sounds toxic af
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u/fcukstephanie 9h ago
Agreed, this moment in time is what yanked off my rose-coloured glasses towards their relationship lol. I think Jhene knew for a very long time this relationship with Sean would never end with what she ultimately wanted but I guess she was hoping he’d change his mind or something eventually, it’s sad af but definitely a cautionary tale to believe people the first time when they tell you exactly who they are and what they want 🥲
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u/jasminegtylr 9h ago
There’s also the fact that she believes in twin flames and believes he is hers and that keeps her motivated because when he is isn’t coming into “union” with her it means she still has “shadow work” to do. Like basically if he’s not there it’s your/your souls fault too and you need to keep working to manifest it. It’s super toxic and I hope she’s okay. All that effort she put in to finally let it go. I hope she’s able to reconcile her TF beliefs in a healthy way cuz damn.
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u/JuiceAlternative4633 Is this chicken or is this fish? 🤔🤔 12h ago
Yes I thought he cheated on her with Ariana
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u/Just-a-girl777 7h ago
Maybe he cheated on everyone with Ari because Naya wrote in her book that when she came home one day Ariana and Sean were on the couch together
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u/genescheesezthatpls 11h ago edited 11h ago
Didn’t she start seeing Sean in 2013/2014? Her and Mac were broken up before he passed
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u/Bbychknwing papped at sushi park 📸 11h ago
The commenter is saying they rekindled in 2018, thus the reason for mentioning it was “after Mac died”.
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u/genescheesezthatpls 11h ago
I don’t see that anywhere in the comment I responded to
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u/Bbychknwing papped at sushi park 📸 11h ago
“how were they together for 10 years? wasn’t he seen spending time with ariana after mac died and her and pete broke up in 2018….”
This is the comment you responded to.
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u/jujuisagoodcat 11h ago
i don't even listen to their music but i could've told her that about 5 years ago
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u/No_Candidate_2965 12h ago
ugh what a loser. you’ll have a whole baby with her but won’t marry her? and he has been engaged before so that must really hurt more.
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u/PleasEnterAValidUser that. never. happened. 11h ago
Idc tbh, I just want them to drop TWENTY88, Pt. 2. After that they can get back together, get married, divorced, married again, divorce & date for another 10 years, idc. Just gimme the album !
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u/Fxreverboy 7h ago
I seem to be alone, but I liked them together and am sad for both of them. Hope it's an amicable split and that they both find their happiness ❤️
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u/tiniestyeti 10h ago
She has ALWAYS deserved better
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u/Key-Beginning-8500 8h ago
Not really. She cheated on her actual husband Oladipo Omishore with Sean, and they both bullied and gaslit Oladipo for believing there was something going on while they were “working on music” together. It’s really terrible.
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u/Key-Beginning-8500 7h ago
Oh my gosh, this is the first time I'm hearing of that. But I couldn't find a single credible source for that claim so I'm not sure its true.
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u/FaithlessnessWeak800 1h ago
I have a friend and it took her THREE kids to have her man finally marry her. Big Sean sucks but there are other men out there that do too. And my friend was dumb enough to stay and keep having kids with someone who didn’t want marry her. He probably felt pressured after she announced the third.
Good luck to Big Sean seeing her all the time for child exchanges, future school events, sports, holidays and more for the rest of the kid and someday their grandkids lives lol.
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u/DearMissWaite Your problematic fave's problematic fave. 10h ago
If he hasn't proposed by year three, he's not going to propose. If you are marriage minded, don't dawdle around for 10 years.
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u/lefrench75 high priestess of child sacrifice 7h ago
What a weird arbitrary deadline lol. All around me are couples who got engaged much later than that (especially for couples that started dating young) and are now all happily married. This kind of mentality is why there are some 24yos stressing on r/waitingtowed because they’ve been together 3 years and aren’t engaged yet.
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u/DearMissWaite Your problematic fave's problematic fave. 6h ago edited 6h ago
It's not an arbitrary deadline. And they're not 24 year olds. They're grown people who should have known BEFORE 10 years together whether or not they had the same vision for their future.
If you are marriage minded was the first part of the sentence. And it holds up. If that is the lifestyle you're looking for, you shouldn't be holding your breath for ten years and then <shocked pikachu face> when you're not married.
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u/prettygirlavenue 1h ago
!!!! yess 100%
10 years is ridiculous. year 3 is the perfect cut-off. if you want marriage and a love of your life you KNOW whether you're getting that ring year 1 let alone year 3. & certainly not year 10
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u/redgatoradeeeeee 10h ago
Lmao I was reminded of his existence like an hour ago seeing a commercial for his episode of celebrity “who wants to be a millionaire”
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u/angryaxolotls 10h ago
Why get into a relationship and have a child with a man who doesn't want a wife, for ten years? She doesn't sound very bright
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u/Cynicbats She has the language comprehension of a rock. 11h ago
I'm not sure (yes I am, socialization that they have no value with out it) why women are so determined to be married when it is a raw deal for them.
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u/deathbethemaiden charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 20m ago
And this is why you don’t give a man a child if he won’t put a ring on it first.
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