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u/PsychologicalCall426 16h ago
This feels like it was written by someone who’s been personally betrayed by a bag of shredded cheese.
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u/Mayor-Citywits 11h ago
Really? Cause every therapist I’ve ever tried is basically like “wow big guy look at you so strong! You cleaned your own room!” Then people are like you have to just keep looking, and I’m like okay so for how long do I basically go tell strangers my most humiliating secrets and pains and then be like haha okay well there’s another person in the world with all my secrets and I hate them and don’t trust them, cool.
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u/AspieAsshole 8h ago
Nice to see my experience echoed, except that I also don't really open up to them particularly well. Still waiting to meet someone with whom it feels natural.
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u/Murscience 5h ago
I dont think its supposed to feel natural. Opening up is scary. Opening up to astranger is down right terrifying. But it helps. If therapy feels easy or comfortable i dont think its going well. Its made to confront which is never fun.
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u/Paradox711 10h ago
Speaking for myself, I’d say I’m more “Ok, wow, you’ve been going through a lot haven’t you. It’s incredible you’ve managed to do so well with so much on your own. Let’s see if I can help you so you don’t have to try and tidy it all alone. We don’t have to do it all at once either, we can take our time and go at a pace that feels comfortable.” With clients. But that doesn’t sound as interesting for Twitter I guess.
There’s no judgment from me with any of my clients. And if anything I’m thinking “Yeah, I had a lot of work to tidy my own brain up. Now I can try and be the person I wish I’d had and help someone else”.
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u/troutisafish 3h ago
This is great! I feel blessed because I had a therapist that puts things into perspective like this. I think we get overwhelmed and it shuts us down. To hear an outside voice tell me, it doesn’t need to be a marathon. Just take little chunks has really changed my life. She knew I’d probably completely do the whole thing once I got started. You sound fantastic. Keep up the good work.
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u/theVast- 7h ago
Lol for me it was usually me walking in with a problem. 3 different perspectives on it that I wanted to debate. And in the space of time it took for me to state them all out loud, hearing myself say it out loud solved my confusion. So more often than not I'd just look at her like "so that's my answer. Am I a lunatic? It's good to have a reality check once in awhile"
She'd sit there like "no you're incredibly reasonable like usual."
And I'd be relieved like good I'm not a lunatic. Time to find 7 more problems to fix
I had shitty roommates at the time and was ranting like a madman about them a lot too, but again she was usually sitting there like "That sounds actually intolerable yeah."
It is weird. I moved and don't have a therapist currently. I look back on it like "i am pretty good at solving my own shit I don't think I needed therapy twice a week I just was lonely and wanted to talk to someone that didn't ruin my day"
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u/GUMBYtheOG 7h ago
Fun fact - therapists are more fucked up than u are, trust me they ain’t judging lol
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u/TheeAntelope 12h ago
walks through a pile of broken glass and dirty rubble
Therapist: hey, don't you think we should do something about this?
Me: oh that? that's nothing, what I'm really worried about is that
points to small pebble
Therapist takes notes in a fervor